The Dangers Of Comparison
After those hot summer days brisk fall nights is the reason why I look forward to this season. It begins my time of reflection of the year. As winter rolls into the New Year, fall is the last full season we have. The seeds of our yearly goals are harvesting and new resolutions begin to take root. We see what others have accomplished throughout the year as we bask in our own joys. Sometimes we see the lives of others take an abrupt change.In my tinder age of twenty-three many of those I know are married, having children, traveling the world, earning degrees, seriously changing history. I find myself envious the most during this time of the year, the time of reflection.
I have decided this year that I won’t allow myself to feel this way. Identifying these emotions as hate is far from the issue. The matter is highlighting other’s accomplishments over my own. Undermining the seeds I’ve harvested by comparing them to the next. With the millions of self-help books the theme will always be the same: worry about yo’ self. I cannot tell you anything you don’t know, what I can remind you of is your worth. I can tell you not to downplay your hard work.
Last fall I was an undergraduate junior who recently moved from a comfortable environment. I stopped writing my blog and began writing for Different by Choice Media Group and Respect Your Struggle. I was mentally and emotionally struggling. I was probably depressed. This fall I am a senior who’s fully engrossed into my studies. I have remained in my new home despite challenges and welcomes many a new! I stopped writing for others and expanded upon the vision God gave me. I look for the joy God has gifted me daily. Actively I search for becoming who I am while loving every flaw I find.
Being unsure about what each day holds is sometimes tiring. Who says when we arrive at our given destination anything will change? Just because you’re married doesn’t mean issues will be resolved. A college degree will only have the benefits you seek. All of life’s milestones we desperately desire will not matter if you haven’t changed yourself.
We tend to plague each other with questions during this season of the year, here’s some of my fav: When will you graduate? When are you getting married? Where are you going to move? Do you want children? When are you going to have any more?! Contrary to our emotions we answer, if you’re like me it’s with a smile. Don’t forget this isn’t your destination. Be proud of who you are and the journey you’ve had. The year isn’t up, use this time wisely to reflect, change and conquer.