‘Single By 30’ Show Asks Does Dating Really Get Harder With Age?
Of all the years in my life there would be a show about turning 30 as I am turning 30 this month. YouTube Red debuted a new, 8-episode series called “Single By 30” created by Wong Fu Productions, stars a couple of high school best friends who meet each other again after the years go by. Peter is already 30 and dreading what his life has become as a single man in Los Angeles; his best friend Joanna returns from her several years of international adventures to find her place in her hometown, also newly single.
They revisit high school memories, with a nod to the hits of the early 2000s I grew up to know, which remind them of a pact they made back then that if they were both still single at 30, they would marry each other—you know, as a backup plan. So they embark on their journey to love by helping each other find dates, trying in person approaches, dating apps, and the standard party scene.
There are only eight episodes so you can definitely binge-watch with ease this contemporary dramedy starring actor and dancer Harry Shum Jr. and singer Kina Grannis.
There are a few eye rolling moments and “typical millennial angst” that are expressed through the series. Are we all really unsure of ourselves? Are we all utterly obsessed with social media and trending TV shows? Are we all really not content in our singleness? Well, it wouldn’t be a decent dramedy without some angst, but there were some good takeaways from the show that I’ll share here:
Being 30 and single is really not that bad.
“I know 30’s a tough age to turn but it’s not a death sentence.” Joanna’s mom says. Back when they were wide-eyed teens, Peter exclaimed that 30 was old. Now living in his 30s, he’s learning to man up and become the person he’s always wanted to be in career and in love. Although Peter and Joanna try to keep true to their pact, their reasons why shifted as they started to mature over the course of the series.
Being single at age 30 and beyond really isn’t a horrible thing, and I should know because I’ll be 30 this month and wrote a book all about it. This show resonated with me on the whole theme of achieving some life goal by a certain age, but I’ve learned and share that those pacts and goals can quickly become sources of stress and pressure for us when we’re actually not really ready for them yet.
Those younger millennials, I tell ya…
“Just because I’m 21 doesn’t mean I don’t have a lot of feelings and I’m able to express a lot of love…” said one college age man to a 29 year old Joanna. There are several times when you will notice the comparison between older millennials’ dating style to the younger millennials and perhaps even Generation Z (whoever they are). “We’re just a different generation,” Peter says to his mom when she asks about his relationship woes.
There were many characteristics that some up our dating experience or lack thereof: dating apps,ghosting, hook ups, social media stalking, asking for a date in person versus online, and more. The older millennials in this show, with our tendency to embrace nostalgia like a cozy blanket in Autumn, like to approach dating the old fashioned way, but that doesn’t stop them from experimenting with advanced technology.
Adulting is necessary.
After watching the series I noticed the major themes in the show beyond the potential love story. It’s about coming to terms with making decisions as an adult for you and the ones you care about. A lot of the show’s premise was about facing your fears and the benefits of getting on the other side of it; not being afraid to pursue your passions in life. My prayer is that we can all get to that point in our young adulthood as we navigate this life journey. I definitely resonated with some of the feelings that Peter and Joanna had throughout the series, as we can and will come to terms with God’s timing for our lives in the areas of discovering purpose, career, and of course—love.
Tatianah is on her journey to living life unapologetically, learn more about her debut book Journey to 30: A Single Woman’s Guide to Living Unapologetically Without Deadlines to be released this month!
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