Manhood is the Opposite of Victimhood
There’s a low shot that in todays world we would be revered as men for being the type of man our grandfathers were. Coming back from war, or being factory workers, being a blue collar worker is seen as a second rate job to being a blogger or some sort of marketing executive. Yet they are the men that keep our cities afloat.
Manhood has been degraded from being the type of overcomer who sees an obstacle and says to himself “I will get through this, and bring my family with me!” to being the type of person that just lays down and says “I don’t FEEL happy, I need to find myself. I’m gonna leave.”
It has become a country-wide stigma to be strong as a man and say I am not a victim. I don’t need a government to help me. I will do this on my own. I will provide for my family. I will NEVER leave my family EVEN THROUGH INFIDELITY. It has somehow become offensive to say that manhood holds it’s own values. A strong man is somehow offensive and this is baffling. The days of the war heroes receiving parades upon their return are long gone along with the white picket fence and tire swings. The days of wise fathers who can give their children wisdom about life, marriage, taxes and careers seem to have faded along the rise of Homer Simpson (ironically named Homer don’t you think?)
The marriage was destroyed with nothing to replace it. The free love movement showed us what it would be like to have no families, and we are the by-product of it. Woodstock as a concept was the first domino of a rule free society. One that accepts anything but the norm. And if you’d like to embrace the norm, you’re a weirdo.
If I refuse to sleep with multiple women I’m seen as a coward, yet the inverse is true when men pick at will who they want to sleep with, and leave without any strings attached and leave a trail of ruined emotions.
Especially relevant, I challenge men to restore the marriage culture in this generation. How many of us look to the generation before us and are mortified by what we see in marriage? Yet we look at our grandparents and put on our puppy faces? We take InstaPics of cute old couples? We ask old people what the secret is? It’s because there is nothing wrong with the institution of marriage. The generation before us quit on it, and we have too, only by default. It’s up to us to decide, will we take back this beautiful idea? Or will we throw it away because one generation did it poorly?
As a millennial, it’s become infuriating to hold a differing opinion from those who surround you. What used to be the mark of a true man. Intellectual diversity. Free thought. The staples and building block of our nation. Frowned upon and scoffed at. Faith! Snickered at and belittled and the belief in emptiness seen as intellect and sophistication. What men saw as a challenge they now see as oppression. What the civil rights heroes fought to eliminate, we are digging into the past and bringing back for political and social gain.
Men have become boys. Under-fathered and over-mothered. I revere the mothers who have done their jobs. Challenge the father who have left theirs and celebrate the DADS who have stood steadfast in theirs.
Most of all, let’s make men wise again.