College: What I Would Tell My Younger Self
I think we’ve all had the thought. What if I could do it over? Well luckily for me I can just blog about it and tell people what to do! With all the best intentions in the world, these are the things I would tell myself if Doc Brown pulled up and said “DRIVE TO 88MPH!!!” Leaving out all the obvious stuff, like the obnoxious success of Instagram and the absurdity of biblical cinema, here are the things I would say to a younger, more emo Angel Quiroz:
You Get What You Put In
So you work at F.Y.E and you have an Associates in Communications Arts. Well, I could’ve probably seen that coming. The truth is most of our generation deems working for what we want a useless task and feel entitled to most everything in the name of equality! This is simply not true, you cannot equate equality with equity. If you skipped 4 out of your 12 weeks of bio and graduated with a 2.12 GPA do not complain college failed to prepare you for the real world.
The polar opposite is true as well. If you are the epitome of the college grad, top of the class, double major, and yet failed to learn anything about money, you’ve also been sorely mistaken about the importance of the college experience. There is more to this than the classroom. College (in theory) is designed to give you an experience and help you thrive in the real world while still having a safety net. More on the safety net later.
Your Stalker Won’t Be That Blond Girl Down the Hall
That’s right. I’d say to myself Angel, look out for Sallie. Sallie Mae. Student Loans are sometimes a necessity and the only way to get to college if your parents can’t afford to send you. If that is the case educate yourself on every detail of the program and pay off every penny with your reimbursement check. You’ll know what I’m talking about later. The less money you take, the more money you will have to begin your career with and your life (when you’re working at F.Y.E with that fancy degree…KIDDING!). Loans are dangerous. I know you’ve heard it, but heed my warning. Take grants, research the buttload of scholarships there are for everything from being left handed to being latino, even ask people for money. Yep, straight up ask that creepy aunty for a stack and keep it moving.
Don’t Feel Guilty About Growing
Growing and becoming your own person may involve less partying. It may involve less Natty Ice and less keg stands, less green apple hookah and less thirsty thursdays at your local underage watering hole. Don’t feel bad about taking your college life seriously. Your friends are not the ones who will be paying off your tuition, nor will they be the ones who will be paying your mortgage in ten years. Growth is a personal and solitary decision, sometimes it may feel lonely, but that doesn’t mean it’s wrong, it means its right. The road less traveled is the road worth taking.
Abstinence Is Stupid
That’s right. The guy who’s writing the blog called ‘culture&god’ said abstinence is stupid. Don’t “hold out on sex” for some moral high ground. Because some gnarly chick or some hot guy is gonna come around and you’re gonna cave like McLovin in Superbad.
Instead, think about what you really want out of life. These are the perfect years to define yourself and mold your mind. Work to become who you want to be, instead of trying to find who you want to be with. So that when you meet the person of your dreams you won’t mess it up by taking something from them that doesn’t belong to you. Focus on the things that really matter like getting to know people for who they are. Don’t get me wrong, I do agree with abstinence, and If I could tell myself some advice thats what it would be. But it is only because I wouldn’t want to go around damaging people. Because whether we’d admit it or not, every encounter we’ve had has been a little damaging, and surely enough we’re left giving our spouses broken, mangled hearts. Which brings me to my next subject.
The Fast Track To Elsewhere
College is a bubble of adolescent adulthood. Remember the safety net? They put you into “real life” scenarios and delay the consequences for about four years. However, everyone you meet is real, and everything you do matters. The safety net is an illusion. Designed to give you a false sense of freedom. Your only safety net is family and God (which is the best safety net you can ask for). The feelings are all real, the money is real, the time spent is real and you will never get it back. A firm understanding of this can be the biggest asset to your college career. Some friendships won’t last, others you need to work to make last. But the ones you do work for, will be worth it. Just remember, it can all seem too good to be true at times and while you don’t want to become cynical and jaded; please don’t take advantage of the fact that these moments hold real consequences. College is not a consequence free zone despite popular opinion.
Yep. I went there. Time for the preacher turn. Who else’s name do you yell when its finals time and you’re so crammed and overwhelmed that you want to mash your face into your text book. Well you might yell someones name but how long does that last, lets be real. Eventually were all up at 1 am with our head over the text book saying “Jesus Christ”. And thats exactly who will get you through these years. Because when you’re at your wits end, He is His strongest, when you are in your darkest and loneliest, He is there as your comforter to show you He loves you, when you are at your happiest, He is there celebrating with You because He made you and loves to see you smile. All in all, the roller coaster of life is better when you’re riding with someone who is flawless and perfect. It has nothing to do with a rule book or a naughty or nice list, He is a person there to listen to your every prayer, and talk about your every day struggle. So i’ll leave you with this.
“It is easier to hide behind philosophical arguments, heavily footnoted for effect, than it is to admit our hurts, our confusions, our loves, and our passions in the marketplace of life’s heartfelt transactions.” “To sustain the belief that there is no God, atheism has to demonstrate infinite knowledge, which is tantamount to saying, “I have infinite knowledge that there is no being in existence with infinite knowledge”
― Ravi Zacharias