Does Caring About Black Lives Mean Supporting BLM?
I’m not black. As a latino, I will not try and latch onto the past pains of the black community and pretend I know how it feels to be black in America. I cannot imagine what it was like growing up. I have had black best friends, some who have become very successful, some who have not. I’ve spent weekends in the projects of Paterson, smoking weed and drinking with friends; some of whom were black. I’ve also gone to college, church and talked about business with other friends; who were also black. I’ve seen a range of people and until maybe two years ago, I didn’t personally realize how incredibly different the black experience was for someone in america.
Maybe it was my own personal ignorance. I’ll call it naivety. But all I saw were people, trying to do their best at life. Some did better than others. Some dealt different cards than others. When I look back now, I see the cultural differences and I notice the obvious things I didn’t notice as a kid. So that leads me to my point.
“I have a deep connection to the black community. Yet for some reason, I don’t resonate with the Black Lives Matter movement.”
When I began seeing my newsfeed fill up with the Alton Sterling news I was horrified. To see a man brutally murdered on my phone goes to show what kind of society we are turning into. We’re one step away from the Colosseum. I hope that these officers are prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law. I hope that they feel the weight of what they’ve done. I hope they come to understand the ramifications of murdering someone. But here is what I don’t want.
I don’t want Alton’s death to be a BLM hashtag and talking point for a movement filled with anger.
“I would hope that I wouldn’t have to write this but: just because I don’t support BLM does not mean I don’t support black lives. “
Once again, although I know black lives matter, I don’t think Black Lives Matter is the answer. I agree, that an all lives matter hashtag is dismissive and condescending and I know that there is usually a one or the other type of argument that is proposed. Either BLM or ALM. But I reject that premise. I’m writing this to say neither! Black lives actually do matter and because of that I want to see change in the BLM movement. A movement not fueled by angst but by purpose.
It may sound like an irrational proposal, but if the non-black Black Lives Matter activist Shaun King can challenge BLM to do something then this non-black person will challenge BLM to advocate for purpose! Purpose in black communities. In black fatherhood. In black marriages. Lets bring back the black family.
“The black family (marriage) did not decline during the 1960s when cultural racism and civil rights were being fought. Do you know why? Because black people are strong. They are powerful. They are overcomers. It was a horrific time and family held people together.”
I challenge the BLM movement to teach the black community to overcome division in the family, to re-form the family units. To teach youth work-ethic and responsibility for life choices. I challenge BLM to be the change they want to see.
Most of the main BLM activists are upper-class people. Very well of financially, why not teach your movement how to sustain themselves financially so that the crime and poverty problem in the inner cities will go down? BLM has a bigger platform than ever before and more influence than I’ve seen any political group have in a long time, and instead of teaching practicality they are sparking revolution. Instead of providing resources they are provoking revolt. It’s simply asinine.
BLM isn’t doing this, as a matter of fact they are doing the opposite. They aim to destroy the modern family, any ideas of manhood and to raise up a unitarian society where everything is equal…if you’re black…but unless you’re Christian. Simply because Christian values contradict what their core values are. Simply put their website says in regards to:
“Black Villages” (I don’t know what that means)
We are committed to disrupting the Western-prescribed nuclear family structure requirement by supporting each other as extended families and “villages” that collectively care for one another, and especially “our” children to the degree that mothers, parents and children are comfortable.
We are committed to making our spaces family-friendly and enable parents to fully participate with their children. We are committed to dismantling the patriarchal practice that requires mothers to work “double shifts” that require them to mother in private even as they participate in justice work.
In my humble opinion, family friendly does not equal dismantling a patriarchy. Nor does it mean disrupting western civilization. Removing these foundations of civilization are not how to better a community. It’s how to further damage it.
Look I can’t tell you what to believe in. All I can say is this is what BLM supports. If you don’t believe me, go to their website. Check out their guiding principles, if it doesn’t line up with your beliefs you know where you fall. But this is why I took my stance.
I have seen plenty of great work in the black community. But the only media attention that BLM is getting is award speeches, co-opting of political rallies, protests, and talk show interviews. Which shows me one thing. They aren’t out to help the black community. They are looking to dominate it.
Essentially, I would really like to be on board with BLM. I honestly would! The name is great, the cultural influence is huge, they stand for the idea of something phenomenal, yet they are misguided in their efforts. They are preaching a revolt that is isn’t relevant to me as a latino. Not only irrelevant but off-putting and exclusive as if I have no place in this. Because I love black lives, I despise Black Lives Matter Movement.
Do you think I’m right about BLM? What are the facts? What should we do to help our culture understand this struggle? Comment and let us know!