Bad Christian! No Sex For You!
Lust roams the shores of every beach and haunts the minds of twenty somethings everywhere. As the temperature heats up, so does our temptation. The tank tops come out, the short shorts come out the scoop necks! Oh Lord save us! And the worst part! I’m not even talking about girls! Gentlemen, I understand the 70’s are back but if you want to wear short shorts, grow a mustache to match or wear some pants!
Sorry, I got distracted.
As Andy Mineo once said:
It’s true! I fight day in and day out with fleshly desires. Not exclusively looking at a someone with lustful eyes, but lets be honest… Friendly relationships can easily turn physical when you have a super fun night on the town and you find yourself alone with that gorgeous girl you’ve been chasing; praying for; imagining a life with! All of the sudden you find yourself in a picture perfect moment! A Nicholas Sparks montage!
Seaside Heights Long Beach Island, alone. In your beach house.
Overwhelmed by a beautiful moment. Why not just go for it? You both are so clearly hot for each other. And besides, whats the worst that could happen?
It can be just as easy if not easier for this to happen in a committed relationship. You love each other!
But there is a pull not to. I’ll explain that pull.
There’s a reason that R.Kelly said his MIND was telling him no. Not that he is a sound example of anything. But it’s because God is practical. Not because sex isn’t fun. But because God made a practical way for us to enjoy it in a way that would be the most fun.
If you don’t quite know the person, there are obvious things that could go wrong. God cares for each person’s heart; and since sex is the most intimate and soul merging experience you could ever take part in; God reminds us to hold off on it; this way we don’t run around like emotional messes breaking peoples hearts. Or getting our hearts demolished (not much fun, ey?)
If you’re in a committed relationship then it goes way deeper. God is preparing everything for you to experience the vast beauty and yea, fun that is sex. Marriage is the container for it because of the vulnerability that is required for you to get busy with someone. Now there’s a fifty fifty shot that if you’re reading this you’ve had sex before. Think about it, how vulnerable were you with that person (those people)? Imagine if the only person who has ever seen you in that state of knowingness was the person you had shared everything in the world with?
Guys (men) imagine if the only person who saw you wearing only your socks was the same person who washed them(how gender-normative)? The same person to pick your children up from school, build a family with? The same person who wouldn’t judge your ridiculous train collector habits and who you would eventually go into retirement with?
Sex is meant for fun. We’ve just changed the context of fun.
I know there are so many shades to this conversation. I’m truly interested in yours. But if there’s one thing I’ve learned it’s that as stand in the face of temptation it’s so easy to cringe and go “oh no! I’m such a victim!” but what scripture really teaches me is that Jesus is better.
If I feel like I’m falling victim to a sin, I don’t stop myself from doing it because “it’s bad” I focus on Jesus because He is better! This has been and will always be the perspective that an overcomer will develop after going through trials.
JESUS IS BETTER
than my lust
than my past sex life
than my sexual desires
than my porn addiction
than my adultery
than my focus on her wardrobe