4 Reasons Gossip Keeps You From Your Purpose
Gossip has sort of taken the place of baseball when it comes to Americas favorite pass time. We used to convene in the great outdoors and go to ball games, parks and on adventures. Somewhere along the scape of society we’ve become a people who watch other people do that and comment below. Talking to or about their voyage to Tahiti, their honeymoon in D.R. Saying “Did you see how the Gonzales’ spent New Years? They can’t afford to pay me back for that time at the beach but they can afford a trip to Disney! Scoff!”
In the open forum of opinions and feelings that are deemed as personal truths, we have a society of eggshell walkers and a society of wrecking balls (yes, another Miley reference). Simply put, you are either a person of many vivacious words or a person of few soothing words. Very rarely do we come across a person of short, structured, piercing truth which will cut like a double edge sword. (see what I did there? If not thats okay)
All in all, we develop a consumers eye towards our own peer group. Seeing their lives as if they are a TV channel. But we do it to ourselves. We set up pages like IG & Facebook, as Daily News and New York Times’ where the headline is always ME! and it’s delivered to our peer group 24/7, we set up our own TV channels like YouTube and Periscope where people can tune in and watch our lives-live or whenever we chose to let others peer in.
So why is it a surprise when others talk about us? Why is it hurtful when someone has a comment about what we do with our lives? Why should we be held accountable if we talk about others non-stop? Does it even matter if we do talk about others?
And most importantly, what does it say about ourselves if we talk about other people?
When I Gossip I’m Giving People A Role That Is Too Important
Gossip makes other people the center of your interaction with the people you like to spend time with. Now, if you really valued those people, what you should be concentrating on is those people. What they are going through in life, how they are, what is new to them, and everything in their hearts. When we start to make others the center of our conversation, the value of friendship goes down, because the friendship is based on a common disdain. It isn’t based on commonality or a love for God.
Lincoln, I believe; once said “The enemy of your enemy is your friend.” I believe honest Abe, was wrong. The enemy of your enemy is your ally. The difference is that friendship requires love. And love requires vulnerability, patience, kindness, long-suffering and so much more.
Talk about ideas, concepts, world events, each other, stories, the future, plans, great things! Don’t talk about people.
When I Gossip I’m Saying Its Okay To Talk About Me
It’s obvious that when you talk bout someone, it will get back to them. Or, we’ve all had that moment when it’s gotten back to you that someone spoke ill of you. Since you are perfect, you weren’t offended. (Hehehe) However, even if you were. After forgiving them and never remembering that they did anything wrong you went on with your life, right?
Yea right, when you participate in gossip you allow open season on yourself. You are fair game in the reality TV culture and add yourself into the mix. You are right in the middle of the he said she said. Develop a response to avoid gossip and move on with your life.
When I Gossip I’m Saying I Don’t Love Myself
It may sound crazy, but gossip proves you don’t value yourself enough to conduct a conversation without devaluing someone else. Passively or discreetly, it doesn’t matter. Gossip is gossip. Even in the context of joking it is still gossip. It proves that you have a need to place yourself above others by pushing them down or being the center of attention.
Learning that your value does not come from other people but a perfect God and the purpose He has given you is the only way to completely stop the desire to want to gossip during every conversation. You simply won’t have the time anymore, or the energy. There are things that are so much more important.
When I Gossip I’m Saying I Don’t Have a Purpose
This is the main point. Without having something greater in my life to look forward to, I will simply look forward to talking about others and criticizing what they do. I don’t only mean serving God. I really mean finding my perfect calling in the eyes of God. The one thing that ignites my passion for life and living here on earth. When I find that, I will be so happily enthralled in the processes of accomplishing my goals that gossip has no time. Without my purpose I am just a bystander, watching what others do and pointing out their downfalls.
So in order to find my purpose I have to take what God has given me and show it to the people who I influence most. When I find those people, I won’t want to gossip with them, I’ll want to give them the greatest gift of all. The gospel of Jesus Christ.