A Wedding is How Much!? 2 Smarter Ways Single Millennials Can Invest in a Happy Marriage
Now that we’ve passed a major engagement season, we will soon enter the wedding season. I personally love attending weddings, but I noticed that the older I get, the smaller I want my wedding to be. Not to skimp much on the ceremony, but make the reception size smaller than I envisioned when I was younger. Overall, I don’t want to spend money on a one-day party that I could be using for a lifetime investment.
According the wedding experts at theKnot.com state that the average cost of a wedding is $35,329. Say whaaaat? The changes in our economy, plus the 50/50 risk of entering a marital relationship is more than enough to make Millennials want to wait ‘til they’re older to marry, if they decide to do so at all. One report shows that more Americans are single, and those who do marry do so in their mid to late 20’s compared to the generation before us.
I believe that growing wedding costs have a part to do with this, so I’ll offer a couple of alternatives for young couples who want to marry but may not have the means to invest in the big day of their dreams.
Invest in your marriage…now
Instead of putting the emphasis on the wedding day, why not work together and invest in your marriage? Newly engaged couples can get distracted by wedding planning that they don’t take the time to sit down and plan out what they want after they get back from the honeymoon. Investing in your marriage can vary in meaning to each couple. For instance, you may marry with a small group and save the money to purchase a house to move into.
You can also invest in your marriage by getting godly premarital counseling and resources afterwards to encourage a happy and healthy marriage. I’ve talked with young couples who shared that premarital counseling was worth going through so that they could be prepared for marriage beyond the wedding day and for real life situations. Putting God first in your marriage and wedding planning brings honor to Him and will also set the right tone for your nuptials. Seek Him together for wisdom and guidance on what to do in this season.
If you’re single and want to be married, you can still invest in your marriage now by learning about marriage through the right mentors, books and resources to walk into that season with a sober mind and not overly focused on weddings posts on Pinterest or videos on YouTube.
Don’t go big, go smart
No need to get overwhelmed with the costs of weddings which can add stress to your planning and marriage. There are tons of hacks and ways that couples can save money on their wedding:
Consider not going so traditional and having the ceremony and reception, or having the event on a time of day or season that is not as popular as others.
Don’t be afraid to bargain hunt and negotiate with vendors to get what you’re looking for, or at least come to a compromise that everyone can be happy with. This will take some patience and research, but it’s worth it, as I was told by one my newlywed friends.
Don’t think you’re on your own; utilize the squad or village to help you put things together, look for deals, or offer their services as gifts to help make your special day happen.
If you have a ceremony now and a reception later, that’s fine too. Weddings don’t have to fit in a traditional box; it’s your day so do what’s best for you both as a couple and pray for God’s favor throughout this exciting season.
As I said before, a wedding reception of 50 guests is just fine for this budget-conscious lady. I don’t need a big wedding, but if I were to change my mind, I would still desire to invest in my marriage and spend wisely. Congratulations and happy planning to all the couples!
Hey C&G crew, how much are you willing to spend on your wedding?